“We have been married for four years. We have a wonderful son. However, after a successful relationship, the husband became more and more abusive. I'm afraid, whether he is addicted. Maybe it's my fault?”
People with an alcohol problem are uncritical towards themselves. So it is not easy to convince them of the need for specialist help. They deny the problem and look for an excuse for their attitude, which usually involves blaming the closest people. There can be endless attempts to justify. Their job is to make others responsible for their own drinking. This is what happens to your husband. So it is necessary, to distance yourself from feeling guilty for it, that the husband has lost control over his drinking. The person affected by alcoholism is drinking, because she is addicted, not because, that she faces setbacks or has a partner, which does not live up to her expectations.