“Maybe, you will find my problem ridiculous; but I was deeply disappointed. Well, my fiance; with whom – as it seemed to me – I have strong emotional ties, He passed over my name day in silence. He knew about them, because we talked about it before. I felt bad. I also felt stupid towards my girlfriends. I do not know, how am I supposed to behave towards the boy? I do not know, what to think about his behavior.”
One of the basic elements contributing to creating a healthy one, a normally functioning family is a common system of norms and values accepted by both spouses (as well as other family members). It is a vital ingredient gradually (sometimes tediously) the microculture they build and the corresponding rules of coexistence. It is created in the period immediately preceding the marriage and in the first phase of its duration.
So your problem must not seem trivial to anyone. Nor should it be taken lightly. Traditions taken from the family home can be (and usually they are) different. The lady was taught by her parents (and other people in the immediate vicinity) this, which is probably alien to your fiancé. In such a case, if he omits an important day for you, it does not have to be due to his ill will or lack of sufficient emotional ties with you.. It may be due to ignorance, lack of awareness, that the memory of such a day is important to you, upbringing in other traditions. It is worth talking to him about it and not try to hide your disappointment against yourself, regret, claims. The fiancé should know the expectations of the future wife, the norms that are important to her and the value system she desires. To, what his family hadn't taught him, can give him the Lady. I hope, that he would prove to be a learned student.