How to be a good parent?

“Parents were also once children, and then teenagers. It means, that they have a lot of experiences and can share them. Not by providing ready-made solutions, but through skillful questioning”.

Being a parent is the joy of a child's first smile…it is keeping it, when he takes his first steps…it is a return to play and spontaneous decisions…it is also dealing with tantrums, e.g.. unruly two-year-old…it is a fight against fatigue.

Raising a child is one of the most important and most difficult tasks, with whom we come to meet.
The family for a child is the most important environment. It is the place, where the child meets his basic physiological needs, and psychological. It is in the family that the entire process of human development takes place, therefore the child should be treated with genuine love and dignity. At the same time, however, it must have defined limits and norms, which he must respect.

Proper parenting relationships should include two aspects:
a) love, acceptance and respect for the child,
b) borders, standards, requirements for a child.

When we love a child, we must teach him to obey. Healthy parenting is: LOVE and POWER. These two components work in the system of balance controls. Exclusive focus on love bypassing power, most often it leads to disrespect and disregard. The atmosphere of absolute domination, on the other hand, is hated by the child, which feels unloved.

Parental attitudes influence relationships in every family.
There are parental attitudes such as:
1. Parents overly critical (they look at everything with a critical eye; praise is rare, the norm is criticism),
2. Parents overly demanding (make unrealistic demands on both of themselves, and the children),
3. Parents - promises (they want to obey the child by making promises. Despite the most sincere intentions, they don't keep their promises, at the same time they are expecting from the baby, that you will not be disappointed, cheated),
4. Parents absent or ineffective (or they work far from home, or, at home, they do not control family life),
5. Parents are imperious or indifferent (they are not actively involved in the life of the child; or they leave them alone, or they order),
6. Parents overprotective (the child is forced “cut”, and thus there is no possibility of emotional development or making mistakes).
We all carry a little bit of each of the attitudes mentioned above, and there is nothing wrong with that. It is important, so that parental attitudes are mixed, to be sustainable.

Therefore, REMEMBER YOUR PARENT:

“• When the child lives with constant criticism,
learns to condemn.
• When the child experiences hostility,
learns hostility.
• When living in an austere atmosphere,
it becomes aggressive.
• When the child is constantly ridiculed,
becomes shy.
• When the child is constantly embarrassed,
he has a constant sense of guilt.
• When the child is in an atmosphere of tolerance,
learns perseverance and patience.
• When the child is encouraged,
learns to value his dignity.
• When it is honest,
learns justice.
• When he feels safe,
learns to trust
• When the child lives in an atmosphere of acceptance and friendship
learns to find love in the world”.